• Michael Haldas

Anger


“Recently published scientific studies have shown that individuals who allow themselves to harbor hostility and anger to others are 5 times more likely to die prematurely from the ravages of heart disease. Science has come to validate the admonishes by the 37th Psalms "don't give in to worry or anger, for it only leads to worry and trouble.” (Fr. Andrew Demotses)

“An old Cherokee was teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight between two wolves. One is evil–he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” “The other is good–he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. This same fight is going on inside you–and inside every other person, too.” The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?” The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.” (Fr. Stephen Powley)

“Lingering anger is very dangerous to our hearts and souls as well as to those to whom we direct our anger. The first murder, Cain killing Abel, was due to Cain’s anger and sorrow of which he could not let go of and turn over to God. Healthy anger alerts us to injustice. But lingering anger is more often than not the first cousin of pride, and pride is what provides the bricks we use to build a wall between us and God and between ourselves and others. Before we know it we have formed our own prisons of isolation as a result.” (Sacramental Living Ministries)

“The children of Israel forsook the Lord because an angry and wrathful temper took hold of them, for God cannot be known in that kind of disposition. He can only be known in and through the virtues, such as gentleness.” (Orthodox Study Bible, 3 Kingdoms (1 Kings) 19:10)

“Just as nothing is to be preferred to love, then, so also, on the other hand, nothing is to be less esteemed than rage and wrath. For everything, however beneficial and necessary it may appear, should nonetheless be put aside in order to avoid the disturbance of anger, and everything that may seem inimical [hostile] should be put up with and tolerated in order to maintain unharmed the tranquility of love and peace, for it must be believed that nothing is more destructive than anger and annoyance and nothing more beneficial than love.” (St. John Cassian)

“Anger is an expression of frustration, fear and hurt, and these feelings turn into anger in order to disguise what we are really feeling. Anger is a form of dishonest emotional expression.” (H. Norman Wright)

“All the conflicts in the world have their origin in unabated anger. One is angry and wounds the other, who then responds with greater violence and strength. Once this chain is begun, it cannot be stopped except through the appeal of prayer—genuine prayer.” (Elder George Calciu of Romania)

“If then we wish to receive the Lord's blessings we should restrain not only the outward expression of anger, but also angry thoughts. More beneficial than controlling our tongue in a moment of anger and refraining from angry words is purifying our heart from rancor and not harboring malicious thoughts against our brethren.” (St. John Cassian) “

Even men of discernment lose their discernment if they respond in kind to the anger of others. For this response clouds their ability to understand a matter. But a humble answer manifests a calm spirit and allows truth to penetrate the situation.” (Orthodox Study Bible, Proverbs 15:1)

“In response to their anger, be ­gentle; in response to their boasts, be humble; in response to their slander, offer prayers; in response to their errors, be steadfast in the faith; in response to their cruelty, be gentle; do not be eager to retaliate against them. Let us show ourselves their brothers and sisters by our forbearance, and let us be eager to be imitators of the Lord.” (St. Ignatius of Antioch)

"…I need to take care, and watch my reaction to any polarizing and divisive issues, which can potentially wreak havoc both within me, and in my relationships with my immediate or larger community. Before I jump in and contribute to discussion, either in person or online, I need to ask myself: Is it worth it? Am I building up, or damaging? Am I leaving room for the grace of the Holy Spirit, or is my own agenda in the forefront, cutting me off from Him?" (Sr. Dr. Vassa Larin)

“How rarely we find goodwill and reconciliation around us today. Angry drivers scowl at each other in the streets. People fight to be first in line. Disgruntled employers and employees both demand their rights. But the common bond of God’s people should be goodwill. Those with goodwill think the best of others and assume that others have good motives and intend to do what is right.” (Life Application Study Bible, Proverbs 14:9)

“Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.” (Prov 29: 11) …Because the “wise” can also have “rage.” For example, a righteous “rage” against injustice, which is a desire to rectify the unjust. But the “wise,” as distinct from “fools,” do not “give full vent” to their rage; that is, they do not self-indulgently get caught up in the rage itself, for example, by ranting and raving about the injustice. Such self-indulgent rage does not help things, because it only seeks to underline one’s own moral superiority.” (Sr. Dr. Vassa Larin)

“We must strive by every means to preserve peace of soul and not allow ourselves to be disturbed by offenses from others. In every way we must strive to restrain anger and remain attentive to our mind and heart.” (Abbot Tryphon)

“If you fail to master your anger on the first day, then on the next day and even sometimes for a whole year you will still be dragging it out. . . . Anger will cause us to suspect that words spoken in one sense were meant in another. And we will even do the same with gestures and every little thing. . . .” (St. John Chrysostom)

"If we are able to keep our mouth shut, even when we are upset, we are at least making a beginning of not giving in to anger." (Archimandrite Vassilios Papavassiliou)

“We dare not be careless with what we say, thinking we can apologize later, because even if we do, the scars remain. A few words spoken in anger can destroy a relationship that took years to build. Before you speak, remember that words are like fire—you can neither control nor reverse the damage they can do.” (Life Application Study Bible, James 3:6)

“The Lord calls us to humble ourselves, to love one another, and to forgive as we are forgiven. Quarreling, resentment and discord are contrary to commitment in Christ.” (Dynamis 11/16/2012)

“Keeping our focus on Christ, we do not react, do not resent, and do not lose our inner peace.” (Abbot Tryphon)

“Anger itself is not wrong. It depends on what makes us angry and what we do with our anger...Use your anger to find constructive solutions rather than to tear people down.” (Life Application Study Bible, Mark 3:5)

“…the Lord often focuses attention on our disdain for one another. We encounter this common attitude in ourselves every day… Whenever there is antipathy, disdain, or anger in our hearts, reconciliation with God is our foremost need, followed by reconciliation with our brother.” (Dynamis 6/11/2014)

"Correction should be given calmly and with discernment, at seasonable times, according to the dictates of reason, and not at the impulse of anger." (Ven. Louis de Granada)

“If the Holy Spirit is peace of soul, as He is said to be, and as He is in reality, and if anger is disturbance of heart, as it actually is and as it is said to be, then nothing so prevents His presence in us as anger…The memory of insults is the residue of anger." (St. John Climacus)

“...resentment is like swallowing poison and waiting for the other guy to die.” (Lillian Daniel)

"...there is a difference between the passion of anger and losses of temper. The latter is not always a sin and can sometimes be helpful both to the one who expresses his anger and the one on the receiving end of it. But anger that is concealed, bottled up, and allowed to fester is like a poison that runs through one’s entire body, lingering in the veins and darkening the intellect..." (Archimandrite Vassilios Papavassiliou)

“Time and anger are intertwined. The longer an offense goes unresolved, the more deep-seated it becomes. Then the heart becomes a hotbed for a root of bitterness." (Lisa Bevere)

“Cleanse your mind from anger, remembrance of evil, and shameful thoughts, and then you will find out how Christ dwells in you.” (St. Maximus the Confessor)

“Are you angry? Be angry at your sins, beat your soul, afflict your conscience, but strict in judgement and a terrible punisher of your own sins. This is the benefit of anger, wherefore God placed it in us.” (St. John Chrysostom)

“As fire is not extinguished by fire, so anger is not conquered by anger, but is made even more inflamed.” (St. Tikhon of Zadonsk)

“There is a difference between uncontrolled rage and righteous indignation—yet both are called anger. We must be very careful how we use the powerful emotion of anger. It is right to be angry about injustice and sin; it is wrong to be angry over trivial personal offenses.” (Life Application Study Bible, John 2:15,16)

“Christians are right to be upset about sin and injustice and should take a stand against them. Unfortunately, believers are often passive about these important issues and instead get angry over personal insults and petty irritations. Make sure your anger is directed toward the right issues.” (Life Application Study Bible, Mark 11:15-17)

“Virtues are formed by prayer. Prayer preserves temperance. Prayer suppresses anger. Prayer prevents emotions of pride and envy. Prayer draws into the soul the Holy Spirit, and raises man to Heaven.” (Saint Ephraim of Syria)

“Prayer if the flower of gentleness and freedom from anger…Whoever loves true prayer and yet becomes angry or resentful is his own enemy. He is like a man who wants to see clearly yet inflicts damage on his own eyes.” (Abba Evagrius the Solitary)

"Prayer silences the passions of the soul, assuages the rebellion of anger, dismisses envy, dissipates evil desire, withers the love of worldly things, and brings great peace and serenity to the soul." (Monk Moses)

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